Keanu Reeves; Leads by Example

Actor, film director, film producer and musician Keanu Charles Reeves (Keanu Charles Reeves), missed the first 20 minutes of the party dedicated to the end of filming of his new film in one of the clubs in New York.

He waited patiently in the rain to be let in.

No one recognized him.

The club owner said: “I didn’t even know Keanu was standing in the rain waiting to be let in – he didn’t say anything to anyone.”

“He travels by public transport”.”He easily communicates with homeless people on the street and helps them”.

– He is only 56 years old (September 2, 1964)- He can just eat a hot dog in the park, sitting between ordinary people.

– After filming one of the “Matrix”, he gave all the stuntmen a new motorcycle – in recognition of their skill.

– He gave up most of the fee for the salaries of costume designers and computer scientists who draw special effects in “The Matrix” – decided that their share of participation in the budget of the film was underestimated.

– He reduced his fee in the film The Devil’s Advocate” to have enough money to invite Al Pacino.

– Almost at the same time his best friend died; his girlfriend lost a child and soon died in a car accident, and his sister fell ill with leukemia.

Keanu did not break: he donated $ 5 million to the clinic that treated his sister, refused to shoot (to be with her), and created the Leukemia Foundation, donating significant sums from each fee for the film.

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The Power of Stepping Away

The power of stepping away

A lot of things can trigger anger, in my opinion it’s triggered when our goal or objective is being interrupted. For example, a common problem with couples is communication. Couples can get angry with one another due to the other person not understanding, listening, learning etc – against their goal.

When anger is triggered, one of the hardest things to do is step away, and yet it is one the best things you can do too. Some people may see it was running away or giving in; this isn’t the case. When stepping away (leaving the room, having a walk etc), communicate; “I’m feeling angry and need to step away, I’ll come back and talk once I’ve cooled down and thought things through.”

Easier said than done, and you BOTH have to respect the needed space. The alternative could be a full blown war. If you’re the other person, let them have some space, however ensure a time is set to finish the conversation with less emotion.

Some anger management tips:

1) Think before you speak. Difficult in a highly emotional moment.

2) Once calm, express anger.

3) Get some exercise.

4) Take a time out.

5) Identify possible solutions.

6) Stick to “I” statements, avoid blaming “you” statements.

7) Don’t hold a grudge.

8) Use humour to release tension

9) Practice relaxation skills / meditate

10) Know when to reach out and ask for help.

https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/anger-management/art-20045434

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It’s ok if people don’t like you

It’s ok if people don’t like you. Most people don’t like themselves.

We used to spend far too much time worrying about what others think – and sometimes our biggest critics are the ones we’re doing better than (or have the potential to be better than).

Low self-esteem often begins in childhood; teachers, friends, siblings, & parents send us positive and negative messages about ourselves. Low self esteem seems to be a real problem; particularly in our teenagers today. Some research indicates that social media is a big part of it – always “out there”, “exposed”, easier to compare ones life vs an the illusion of someone famous posts – plus the internet trolls etc who create fake accounts and have cause a number of teenage suicides.

Improve self esteem?
1) Recognise what you’re good at!
2) Build (and surround yourself) with positive friends and relationships
3) Be kind to yourself, don’t put yourself down
4) Learn to become assertive
5) Learn to say “no” (which also helps fight peer pressure)
6) Give yourself a challenge

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Worrying is like praying for something you don’t want to happen

“Worrying is like praying for something you don’t want to happen. I have such an overwhelming sense that if you’re in the right state of heart, the next right thing appears to you.” – Robert Downey, Jr

Call it The Law of Attraction, faith, fate…whatever works for you. There’s a great saying that stressing and worrying is the waste of a good imagination – however what do you do instead? Sometimes you HAVE to worry, right?

Firstly, become more aware of what you can control. If you can control the outcome of [insert problem here] – then take steps to resolve it. If you can’t (there’s absolutely nothing you can do about it); there’s no point getting angry or upset, worried or stressed about it. Your being angry at the weather won’t change a thing. Let it go.

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People who defend your name when you are not around are the most loyal friends you could ever get.

People who defend your name when you are not around are the most loyal friends you could ever get.

I couldn’t agree more! Particularly in an industry (real estate) that is notoriously “catty”, I learned a long while ago that bad mouthing the competition makes THAT person look like an idiot.

Who’s got your back? Who can you always rely on to call you on your crap to your face, and defend you when your back is turned? True partnership and friendship. No one gets thrown under a bus!

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Five minutes of anger impairs your immune system for more than six hours.

Did You Know #88: Five minutes of anger impairs your immune system for more than six hours.

Research also shows that even one five-minute episode of anger is so stressful that it can impair your immune system for more than six hours.

I think Elliott Larson sums up anger well in his quote, “Anger is only one letter short of danger.” Anger can be evoked by any number of personalised triggers, with everyone having their own individual “pet hates”, tolerances, and breaking points. Dr. Robert Anthony says; “The angry people are those who are most afraid,” which I believe is true in some circumstances; however I don’t believe this to be the case overall. Ekman & Friesen (2003) suggest that anger can be aroused in six different ways; frustration, physical threat, psychological attack, moral violation, failure to meet expectations, and when anger is directed at you.

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A Bad Attitude is Like a Flat Tire

A bad attitude is like a flat tire, you can’t get very far until you change it.

Be aware and take control of your own thoughts. When you’re in a depressed state, unhappy memories are easier to access, so deliberately think of happy thoughts to break the vicious cycle.

There’s also lot of studies that support the fact that body language is linked to our emotions and states. Slouch with your head down and shoulders hunched will most likely create an emotional state that is negative and tired. Sit up, shoulders back and chin high will create quite a different attitude. Amy Cuddy says in one of her talks on power postures; “Our bodies change our minds, our minds change our behaviour and our behaviour changes our outcomes.” Also become aware of your facial expressions. Smile – even if you don’t mean it – as your brain may not catch on that you’re faking your smile and your state may lift.

There’s a powerful connection with the mind-body & body-mind; be aware and use it to your advantage.

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You need to hang out with people who fit your future, not your history

You need to hang out with people who fit your future, not your history.

This has a similar tone to a post I did recently; “Tell me who you hang around with, and I can tell you who you’ll become.”

Examples of toxic people who may be in your life:
1) Flaky friends; unreliable, changeable
2) Reckless friends; borderline stupid, frontal lobe still not completely formed
3) Energy vampires; just draining to be around
4) Attention seekers / drama-magnets; sometimes funny, most of the time is spend on their self-created problems
5) Over competitive friends; competition is great, not when you’re seen as a rival
6) Friends who don’t make the effort; one-sided friendships aren’t great
7) Under achievers; They want you to NOT make something of yourself so they have company

Any others you’d add?

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Make Your Own Luck!

Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.

Ever met a lucky gold medal winner? I doubt it! They made their own luck by training for years of their lives to become good enough to shine at the right opportunity. Same goes for business – it’s not luck that makes us successful. We feel very blessed, yes, however luck had nothing to do with it. Winning Lotto didn’t get us to where we are now; a LOT of hard work, life experiences, knocks, failures, learning experiences, pushing boundaries, and believing in ourselves to go against what everyone else is doing. Years of preparation has gone into our property & people knowledge & skills – that’s how we make it look easy.

Make your own luck, don’t rely on Lotto!

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Tell Me Who You Hang Around With & I’ll Show You Your Future

A shark in a fish tank will grow 8 inches, but in the ocean it will grow to 8 feet or more. The shark will never outgrow its environment and the same is true about you.

Tell me who you hang around with, and I can tell you who you’ll become.

“Surrounding yourself with people who have higher standards than you is the fastest way to change. In fact, I believe it’s the only way to truly and permanently change.” – Benjamin P. Hardy

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