Watching TV Can Reduce the Risk of Divorce

One of the primary problems that destroys romantic relationships is poor communication – specifically on the subject of the relationship itself. When you and your partner avoid sharing your feelings and concerns about your relationship, it’s nearly impossible to find solutions that will bring you closer together and form a stronger connection where both parties’ needs are being met. And while this type of open, often vulnerable, communication can be difficult, there are ways to make it less intimidating. In fact, there’s one very easy way to lower your risk of divorce, according to an Oct. 2020 meta-analysis published in Journal of Contextual Behavioral Science: watch TV shows and movies featuring couples and talk about them.

For a 2013 study, psychologists looked at 174 couples to see how effective certain activities were at improving their relationships. The researchers divided the couples into four groups, assigning each group to either complete the highly regarded premarital relationship enhancement program (PREP); attend workshops offered by CARE, a program designed to build empathy and compassion; watch movies and discuss the onscreen relationships depicted; or do none of the above.

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/344484649_Examining_the_Correlates_of_Psychological_Flexibility_in_Romantic_Relationship_and_Family_Dynamics_A_Meta-Analysis

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Perception is…

Perception is how we see the world around us…and what we make that mean.

Our perceptions can empower us and be a huge source of strength – and equally can seriously hinder us, becoming a massive weakness.

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Make Me Smarter #21

Make Me Smarter #21: In Northwest Territories, Canada, some car license plates are shaped like a polar bear.

Take a trip up to Northwest Territories, Canada, and you’ll notice something about the cars that any nature-lover would appreciate: The territory has license plates that are shaped like polar bears. And while the government considered a new design years ago, the animal-inspired plates can still be spotted on vehicles traveling around the country.

https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/north/nunavut-s-polar-bear-licence-plates-may-go-extinct-1.1119751

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Make Me Smarter #20

Make Me Smarter #20: The word “friends” is said in every episode of the show Friends.

Thanks to modern streaming services, you can watch an episode (or five) of Friends whenever you’d like. And if you’re observant, you might notice that the word “friends” is said in every single one of the 236 episodes of the show, according to Cosmopolitan.

https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/entertainment/news/a29836/friends-facts-33-things-you-never-knew/

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Wash the dishes to wash the dishes

Is your daily routine mindful or mindless?

Do you serve a customer to make money? Or do you serve a customer to serve a customer? Do you wash dishes to get them clean? Or do you wash the dishes to wash the dishes?

Here’s a story from Buddhist Monk, Thich Nhat Hanh, about ‘washing the dishes to wash the dishes’ and the difference between mindful and mindless:

“In the United States, I have a close friend named Jim Forest… Last winter, Jim came to visit. I usually wash the dishes after we’ve finished the evening meal, before sitting down and drinking tea with everyone else.

One night, Jim asked if he might do the dishes. I said, “Go ahead, but
if you wash the dishes you must know the way to wash them.” Jim replied, “Come on, you think I don’t know how to wash the dishes?” I answered, “There are two ways to wash the dishes. The first is to wash the dishes in order to have clean dishes and the second is to wash the dishes
in order to wash the dishes.”

Jim was delighted and said, “I choose the second way-to wash the dishes to wash the dishes.” From then on, Jim knew how to wash the dishes. I transferred the “responsibility” to him for an entire week.

If while washing dishes, we think only of the cup of tea that awaits us, thus hurrying to get the dishes out of the way as if they were a nuisance, then we are not “washing the dishes to wash the dishes.”

What’s more, we are not alive during the time we are washing the dishes.
In fact we are completely incapable of realizing the miracle of life while standing at the sink.

If we can’t wash the dishes, the chances are we won’t be able to drink our tea either. While drinking the cup of tea, we will only be thinking of other things, barely aware of the cup in our hands. Thus we are sucked away into the future and we are incapable of actually living one minute of life.” – Thich Nhat Hanh

Are you focusing more at being successful, or being mindful? It is a conscious choice that shows up in your daily routine – Being present in every moment shows up in the quality of your products, your service, your communication.

Being aware leads to care. It’s the contrast of being careful and being careless. This care becomes quality, and that’s why greater mindfulness leads to greater success.

Your daily routine isn’t a means to an end. It’s an opportunity to experience the miracle of life every day.

“Be here now.” – Ram Dass

(Written by Roger Hamilton)

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Make Me Smarter #19

Make Me Smarter #19: Violet Jessop survived three of the largest ship disasters in history.

Violet Jessop may be one of the luckiest or unluckiest women in history, depending on how you look at it. The ocean liner stewardess not only survived the sinking of the Titanic in 1912, but she was also present during the Olympic ship collision in 1911 and on board during the sinking of the Britannic in 1916 (Olympic and Britannic were Titanic’s sister ships). Miraculously, none of the disasters could take Jessop down and she lived to be 83, passing away in 1971.

https://museumhack.com/violet-jessop/

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Speech and Deception: Pauses

Speech and Deception: Pauses

The most common vocal deception clues are pauses, being too long or too frequent. Suspicion is aroused when a person hesitates when starting to speak (particularly if the start is answering a question). Too many shorter pauses may also cause suspicion. When written, pauses are usually indicated with three full stops that look like this …

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Make Me Smarter #18

Make Me Smarter #18: Nettle pudding is one of the oldest recipes in the world and goes back 8,000 years.

If you like to tackle old-school recipes, then how about trying out the oldest known recipe in the world? Researchers at the University of Wales Institute tested an ancient recipe for nettle pudding, which dates back around 8,000 years. Although nettles are a plant that your parents may have warned you to stay away from as a child, according to researcher Ruth Fairchild, when it’s cooked with ground-down barley and water, “the sting goes out of it.”

https://antiquitynow.org/2015/01/07/bon-appetit-wednesday-ancient-nettle-pudding-britains-oldest-recipe/

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Unite.

I’m not American, however I think this message speaks stronger than politics and where you live. United. This is the message everyone in the world should embrace. From all the way in New Zealand it looks to me like “The Divided States of America”.

Today’s a great day to think of something and someone you appreciate, what you’ve achieved in life, and how much more there is to experience. It all ends badly if we get stuck in division.

Unite. Pass it forward. Empathy. 🤗 – Stu

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Make Me Smarter #17

Make Me Smarter #17: Unlike most snakes, anacondas give birth to live babies as opposed to eggs.

Anacondas aren’t like the typical snake for plenty of reasons, including the fact that they can grow up to 30 feet in length and can weigh up to 550 pounds. Another noteworthy difference? Unlike most other kinds of snakes, anacondas don’t lay eggs but instead deliver live babies. They birth up to 40 snakes at a time, each around two feet long.

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