How do YOU change a mood?

A mood can be described as an emotion that lasts a long time. We can find ourselves in “good” moods or “bad”; the question is what we do once we recognise this.

There’s a lot of information out ther suggesting that to improve your mood you can take 10 large breaths or think about what you’re grateful for. In reality, when you’re in a dark place, dark thoughts are easier to find that good ones (just as it’s easier to recall good memories when in a good mood).

This is my 2 cents worth on what I think is quite good, and that I’ve used:

– Going for a walk & spending time outside
– Exercise (aka therapy for a lot of people)
– Nana nap (or make sure you get enough sleep)
– Listen to music eg favourite album (combined with the gym is awesome!)
– Watch something funny on YouTube for 5 min (silly animal videos)
– Get some sunshine
– Smile and stand taller; enforce good posture. This body / mind connection can often override mood
– Touch. My favourite pick-me-up as my love language is physical touch; can’t get enough.

Some people eat chocolate or reach for the wine (which I also like to do, just not in the middle of the day). Do you have any “mood hacks” that you do when you catch yourself feeling down or flat?

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Teams Are The Future in Real Estate

Ever since getting into real estate, I’ve always been in a team with my wife. Being in a team is not only great for new agents, it’s the future of real estate.

That’s one of the reasons that inspired us to create The Team Realty. We encourage agent-first branding so agents can own their own identity (we provide personal branding training too!), enable agents to work from home, have an extremely attractive commission structure for agents (as you do most of the work!), plus much more.

Considering real estate or switching it up from your current brokerage? Drop me a line;

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Why wait to achieve your goals?

“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.” – Theodore Roosevelt

How many times have we said to ourselves; “If I have a million dollars I’d….” and we state some big goal or dream. My question is; why not start working towards your goals or dreams anyway? Do what you can now, with what you currently have at this moment.

Don’t wait, take some small action today towards something you thought was always out of reach, then do a little something tomorrow. Repeat.

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Wise men speak because they have something to say…

“Wise men speak because they have something to say; fools because they have to say something.” – Plato

How many conversations do you have with people each day where nothing is really said? Some say that politicians have mastered this art by answering questions without actually answering them. There’s also the people who have an opinion – good or bad – about everything. They don’t have experience, knowledge or any real evidence (other than perhaps a social media post), and yet feel like they can wade in and give advice or feedback that they really know nothing about.

Simple thoughts from me to you; don’t take relationship advice from someone single, don’t take money or investment advice from someone broke, don’t take health advice from someone who doesn’t invest in their own health.

Tony Robbins started his career finding the people who were experts in their field and doing exactly as they did.

Worth having a think about whose opinions you’ve been listening to.

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Other People’s Limited Perceptions

“We must not allow other people’s limited perceptions to define us.” – Virginia Satir

Limiting beliefs are thoughts & opinions that someone believes to be the absolute truth. They tend to have a negative impact on life; stopping moving forward and growing on both a personal and professional level.

Personal limiting beliefs are things like; “bad things always happen to me”, “I’m no good at speaking to people”, “all my relationships are terrible”, “I’d never make a good leader” or “I could never start my own business”. They’re assumptions about reality that come from your perceptions of life experiences.

Other people – if we let them – can have a lot of power over us. Everyone has opinions, some are voiced more than others, some are positive – and of course – some are negative. Put another way; we can’t let someone’s opinion about us that is based solely on their own limited perceptions become OUR limiting belief. Let them keep their opinion!

How do you overcome limiting beliefs?

1) The first step to overcoming your limited beliefs is in identifying what they are. …
2) Recognise that it is just a belief. …
3) Challenge your own belief. …
4) Recognise the potentially damaging consequences. …
5) Adopt a new belief. …
6) Put it into practice.

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Is Your Business Providing Value?

“Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value.” – Albert Einstein

In my opinion, one of the biggest problems businesses have today is creating products or services that consumers don’t see the value in. Here’s a few ideas!

1) Start off focusing at solving your customers problem in a way that puts money in their pocket. Don’t try to sell anything that isn’t 100% focused on solving your customer’s problem.

2) Find out solutions your customers find most value in and replicate.

3) Create strategic alliances with market leaders to extend trust & aid in expanding.

4) Look at how businesses / customers could sell your products / services, without losing sight of solving the problem and adding value.

5) Adapt your products / services to cover a wider range, and future proof with a vision of what’s happening in the world in the next 5 years. Don’t become too near sighted and only stick to what’s working right now. It’ll change!

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A Lie Doesn’t Become the Truth..

A lie doesn’t become truth, wrong doesn’t become right, and evil doesn’t become good, just because it’s accepted by a majority.

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Your Best Teacher is Your Last Mistake

Your best teacher is your last mistake.

Whenever we make mistakes, we have a choice. Some people choose to blame, avoid responsibility, gaslight etc. What you should be looking at is understanding what went wrong, LEARNING from it, which in turn TEACHES you to – as best as you can – avoid making the same mistakes again. Your last mistake is your best teacher as there’s often a negative emotion associated to mistakes, which in turn can help absorb the lesson better.

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It’s Not What You Know or Who You Know

It’s not what you know or who you know, but who knows you.

Another way to look at it; Your reputation = Your Brand (what you say about yourself, advertising etc) + What Others Say About You (eg social media, press, word of mouth). It’s easier to be “known” if you can stand out from the crowd; for example, the sea of real estate agents in New Zealand.

What can you speak about that no one else can? For me, behavioural science & martial arts are my loves, plus I have what I think is a unique future vision of real estate.

It’s much easier to attract business when people know you.

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The Psychology of Bullying

“Strong people don’t put others down. They lift them up.”

Psychology can assist in understanding bullying behaviour – I’ve made my opinion very clear that I have a zero tolerance for bullying – however why are people “driven” to this sort of behaviour?

People Who Put Others Down: Psychology Of Bullying

The need to feel superior to others; Psychology says those who feel this need bully to knock others down. By making another person feel small, a person who bullies feels bigger.

Childhood trauma; Childhood trauma has a great effect on how people relate to the world around them as they grow up. Verbal and mental abuse are among the things that most people consider childhood trauma. These are not the only things that cause this type of behavior, though. Sexual abuse, being involved in a natural disaster, or losing a parent could also cause this type of behavior.

Low Self-Esteem; Low self-esteem is a major motivator to bullying. This goes along with needing to feel superior to others in a way, but it also has its own set of causes, as well.

A poor home life; If someone were to grow up in a home where ample amounts of violence occurred, these are the coping mechanisms that will result. Verbal abuse at home begets verbal abuse at school and in life as a child grows.

They have been bullied themselves; Studies have shown that people who have been bullied are far more likely to bully others.

Poor Education; Poor education or the lack of access to quality education is a leading cause of bullying. Social skills and moral responsibility are among the first things we learn when we are in school. If a person doesn’t have access to a good school system with teachers that care and want to guide children, the children are at a disadvantage.

Lack of Empathy (major warning sign); If a person doesn’t understand the way their actions affect others, bullying can result. A lack of empathy means the compass inside that tells us what might hurt people is broken.

Underlying mental health issues; Underlying mental health issues such as depression or anxiety are common triggers for people who put others down. Psychology explains that the way a person’s brain works has a lot to do with the way they act.

Insecurity; this is another common theme.

“Often, bullies target those who are different than they are or are least likely to fight back. This is because the bullies can use their power and feel better about themselves. If they went after someone who could easily fight back, it would not be as much fun to them.” – Mary Elizabeth Dean

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