A man stands between you and your car; arms folded, legs apart, with narrowed eyes glaring at you with tightened lips. Are you in danger? A woman smiles at you from across the bar and moves her drink to one side. Was that an invitation? Your teenager comes home late and explains with hands in pockets and a single shoulder shrug how someone else damaged the car. Are you being lied to? You have worked hard on this deal, with the paperwork about to be signed. You notice the man you have been negotiating with is reading the contract with a half smile, and as he sees you watching, replaces his smile with a more serious look. Has this man been deceptive in order to gain a better price? You ask the seller of the car if there is anything wrong with it, and they respond with a stutter, pause, then a vague “Not that I recall” answer. All of these situations come from someone’s real life experiences. Everyday we have questions, such as: Does he / she like me? What are they thinking? Are they in a good mood? Do they like the idea? Did he just lie? Am I buying a lemon? Should I do business with this person? Do I trust him with my kids? Are they the best person for the job? Can I see myself with this person for the rest of my life?
Everyday we have so many questions, and for these to remain unanswered can sometimes be accompanied with an ever increasing list of insecurities. In my opinion people and relationships are one of the greatest mysteries in life, and as I have a deep drive to better understand people I was drawn to the behavioural sciences. And it is through my learning and witnessing so many who could benefit from learning that I found my passion in helping people to understand non-verbal communication – and to avoid deception.