Why wait to achieve your goals?

“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.” – Theodore Roosevelt

How many times have we said to ourselves; “If I have a million dollars I’d….” and we state some big goal or dream. My question is; why not start working towards your goals or dreams anyway? Do what you can now, with what you currently have at this moment.

Don’t wait, take some small action today towards something you thought was always out of reach, then do a little something tomorrow. Repeat.

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Wise men speak because they have something to say…

“Wise men speak because they have something to say; fools because they have to say something.” – Plato

How many conversations do you have with people each day where nothing is really said? Some say that politicians have mastered this art by answering questions without actually answering them. There’s also the people who have an opinion – good or bad – about everything. They don’t have experience, knowledge or any real evidence (other than perhaps a social media post), and yet feel like they can wade in and give advice or feedback that they really know nothing about.

Simple thoughts from me to you; don’t take relationship advice from someone single, don’t take money or investment advice from someone broke, don’t take health advice from someone who doesn’t invest in their own health.

Tony Robbins started his career finding the people who were experts in their field and doing exactly as they did.

Worth having a think about whose opinions you’ve been listening to.

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Other People’s Limited Perceptions

“We must not allow other people’s limited perceptions to define us.” – Virginia Satir

Limiting beliefs are thoughts & opinions that someone believes to be the absolute truth. They tend to have a negative impact on life; stopping moving forward and growing on both a personal and professional level.

Personal limiting beliefs are things like; “bad things always happen to me”, “I’m no good at speaking to people”, “all my relationships are terrible”, “I’d never make a good leader” or “I could never start my own business”. They’re assumptions about reality that come from your perceptions of life experiences.

Other people – if we let them – can have a lot of power over us. Everyone has opinions, some are voiced more than others, some are positive – and of course – some are negative. Put another way; we can’t let someone’s opinion about us that is based solely on their own limited perceptions become OUR limiting belief. Let them keep their opinion!

How do you overcome limiting beliefs?

1) The first step to overcoming your limited beliefs is in identifying what they are. …
2) Recognise that it is just a belief. …
3) Challenge your own belief. …
4) Recognise the potentially damaging consequences. …
5) Adopt a new belief. …
6) Put it into practice.

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Is Your Business Providing Value?

“Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value.” – Albert Einstein

In my opinion, one of the biggest problems businesses have today is creating products or services that consumers don’t see the value in. Here’s a few ideas!

1) Start off focusing at solving your customers problem in a way that puts money in their pocket. Don’t try to sell anything that isn’t 100% focused on solving your customer’s problem.

2) Find out solutions your customers find most value in and replicate.

3) Create strategic alliances with market leaders to extend trust & aid in expanding.

4) Look at how businesses / customers could sell your products / services, without losing sight of solving the problem and adding value.

5) Adapt your products / services to cover a wider range, and future proof with a vision of what’s happening in the world in the next 5 years. Don’t become too near sighted and only stick to what’s working right now. It’ll change!

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A Lie Doesn’t Become the Truth..

A lie doesn’t become truth, wrong doesn’t become right, and evil doesn’t become good, just because it’s accepted by a majority.

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Your Best Teacher is Your Last Mistake

Your best teacher is your last mistake.

Whenever we make mistakes, we have a choice. Some people choose to blame, avoid responsibility, gaslight etc. What you should be looking at is understanding what went wrong, LEARNING from it, which in turn TEACHES you to – as best as you can – avoid making the same mistakes again. Your last mistake is your best teacher as there’s often a negative emotion associated to mistakes, which in turn can help absorb the lesson better.

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It’s Not What You Know or Who You Know

It’s not what you know or who you know, but who knows you.

Another way to look at it; Your reputation = Your Brand (what you say about yourself, advertising etc) + What Others Say About You (eg social media, press, word of mouth). It’s easier to be “known” if you can stand out from the crowd; for example, the sea of real estate agents in New Zealand.

What can you speak about that no one else can? For me, behavioural science & martial arts are my loves, plus I have what I think is a unique future vision of real estate.

It’s much easier to attract business when people know you.

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The Psychology of Bullying

“Strong people don’t put others down. They lift them up.”

Psychology can assist in understanding bullying behaviour – I’ve made my opinion very clear that I have a zero tolerance for bullying – however why are people “driven” to this sort of behaviour?

People Who Put Others Down: Psychology Of Bullying

The need to feel superior to others; Psychology says those who feel this need bully to knock others down. By making another person feel small, a person who bullies feels bigger.

Childhood trauma; Childhood trauma has a great effect on how people relate to the world around them as they grow up. Verbal and mental abuse are among the things that most people consider childhood trauma. These are not the only things that cause this type of behavior, though. Sexual abuse, being involved in a natural disaster, or losing a parent could also cause this type of behavior.

Low Self-Esteem; Low self-esteem is a major motivator to bullying. This goes along with needing to feel superior to others in a way, but it also has its own set of causes, as well.

A poor home life; If someone were to grow up in a home where ample amounts of violence occurred, these are the coping mechanisms that will result. Verbal abuse at home begets verbal abuse at school and in life as a child grows.

They have been bullied themselves; Studies have shown that people who have been bullied are far more likely to bully others.

Poor Education; Poor education or the lack of access to quality education is a leading cause of bullying. Social skills and moral responsibility are among the first things we learn when we are in school. If a person doesn’t have access to a good school system with teachers that care and want to guide children, the children are at a disadvantage.

Lack of Empathy (major warning sign); If a person doesn’t understand the way their actions affect others, bullying can result. A lack of empathy means the compass inside that tells us what might hurt people is broken.

Underlying mental health issues; Underlying mental health issues such as depression or anxiety are common triggers for people who put others down. Psychology explains that the way a person’s brain works has a lot to do with the way they act.

Insecurity; this is another common theme.

“Often, bullies target those who are different than they are or are least likely to fight back. This is because the bullies can use their power and feel better about themselves. If they went after someone who could easily fight back, it would not be as much fun to them.” – Mary Elizabeth Dean

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Listen & Silent have the same letters – Active Listening

Listen & silent have the same letters. This isn’t by accident!

We have 2 ears and 1 mouth 😉. Instantly become a better sales person, spouse or parent by actively listening. Listening is one of the most important skills you can have – I know I’ve been challenged with distractions etc. How well you listen has a major impact on your life.

Given all the listening that we do, you would think we’d be good at it – however research suggests that we only remember between 25% – 50% of what we hear (according to Edgar Dale’s Cone of Experience). That means that when you’re talking, people only pay attention to less than half of the conversation.

When you’re receiving directions or being presented with information, you’re likely to only take in 25% – 50%.

The way to improve your listening skills is to practice “active listening.” This is where you make a conscious effort to hear not only the words that another person is saying but, more importantly, the complete message being communicated.

In order to do this you have to pay attention to the other person – which is even harder in this day and age (tried getting a teenagers attention recently?).

You can’t allow yourself to become distracted by whatever else may be going on around you (e.g. phone), or by forming counter arguments while the other person is still speaking. Nor can you allow yourself to get bored, and lose focus on what the other person is saying.

If you’re finding it particularly difficult to concentrate on what someone is saying, try repeating their words mentally as they say them. This will reinforce their message and help you to stay focused.

https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-active-listening-3024343

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Some people are like clouds. When they disappear, it’s a beautiful day!

Some people are like clouds. When they disappear, it’s a beautiful day!

Who do you spend you time with? Do these people elevate you? Do they bring out the best in you, help you, drive you, provide support, as well as reminding you when you’re off course or out of line?

Or are they more negative, critical, hate your ideas, don’t believe in you and sap your energy?

Either person could be your partner, close family, friends or co-workers. Take care who you’re spending your time with, and take control if it’s unacceptable. I’ve certainly left particular companies because of the toxic environment, and have shed “friends” over the years who just “took” and weren’t good for me personally.

Do you need to do some trimming? Look after yourself and the company you keep.

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