Speak up, Stand together. Stop Bullying.

Speak up, Stand together. Stop Bullying. This post might be a week late for Pink Shirt Day, however the message never gets old. I’m personally disgusted by the amount of bullying I hear about that’s going on – both in schools and out. From public beatings in the Porirua shopping area, to crowd intimidation, to not feeling safe visiting the cafeteria. And these are just examples of the girls.

In my opinion, the only way to stop a bully is to stand up to them. Not necessarily throwing a punch when it’s 6-on-1. Speak up, Stand together. Never let bullying slide. It’s everyone’s right to feel safe, at school or in the workplace. Action is the only thing that works – silence gives these weak insecure bullies the indication they can continue this behaviour.

I always wanted to do martial arts, however without going into detail, wasn’t allowed. Then during my 4th form (year 10) our group was confronted by a large crowd of bullies – I didn’t know how to “fight”, however I still stood up to them as I hated how not doing so made me feel. From that point on I was “driven” to do martial arts. I WILL never feel like that again.
Confidence negates bullies. Ability can sit them on their arse (if necessary and they cross the line). Martial arts grants both, along with learning that avoiding the need to fight is always the better path.

My last point on this is; being a bystander to bullying and doing nothing makes you complicit. The bystander effect occurred in Porirua where 2 girls to taking turns beating up another girl (punching her head, pulling her hair, and eventually stealing her phone). Adults walked past and did nothing. There…is…no…excuse.

Speak up, Stand together. Stop Bullying.

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Own Your Screw Ups

We all screw up. We tend to wield social media to post the best of the best of our own lives (the fairy tale), while leaving it up to others to point out our flaws (should we have been silly enough to show weakness on social media). Might be a cynical outlook, however I can honestly recognise this myself to some degree. I didn’t post (but could have posted); “Boy, really screwed up THAT Mother’s Day!” I’ll tend not to post anything instead.

However we all screw up. Bruce Lee said; “Mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them,” – I agree. Whoever you are, put your hand up and say; “My bad,” where needed. Own your screw up. Learn from it. Grow from it. Ignoring is bad – in some instances people can create such a strong self-image of themselves that they become incapable of seeing their own issues – they’re the most frustrating. We’ve all met one or two of them before. Don’t be like them 😉

We learn from failure, not success. Own your screw ups; we’re all human.   

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If you want your children to turn out well…

“If you want your children to turn out well, spend twice as much time with them, and half as much money” – Abigal Van Buren

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Are You Becoming Extinct?

For a few years I’ve been asking people; “What will your industry look like in 2030?” This had me think long and hard about what the real estate industry would look like. We came up with an industry vision, and began working towards it.

I personally don’t see mainstream real estate as part of that future vision – unless they change. It’s been my opinion for some time that the time of offices, admin-heavy old-school agencies 50/50 commission splits will pass, creating room for the innovative, agile, low-overhead, lower commission individuals, partnerships and businesses to rise.

The pandemic was a massive surprise to everyone – a huge shake up in every industry – and it’s accelerated what I thought real estate would look like in 2030 to today (minus the cool VR gadgets!).

My message is simple, borrowed from Spencer Johnson (author of “Who Moved My Cheese”); “If you do not change, you can become extinct!”

You’re doing it wrong if you and your business / industry is doing exactly what you did back in Feb 2020.

Let me know if you’re interested in having a chat about real estate and how we’re different!

Client Focused. Results Driven. Designed for the marketplace of tomorrow.

When you work with an agent from The Team Realty, you work with someone that combines market expertise with entrepreneurial innovation. We listen to your needs and goals, use data and creativity to optimize your property for potential buyers, and stand beside you the whole way.

Outstanding communication, service and results are of the utmost importance, no matter the price point of any house we sell.

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Make Me Smarter #24

Make Me Smarter #24: Readers are more likely to agree with an essay if it’s printed in Baskerville font

Some fonts are pleasing to the eye while others irk readers for one reason or another. But it turns out that the fonts we like (and don’t like) influence us more than we may know. In an experiment for The New York Times, readers who were shown an essay in Baskerville (as displayed in the image) were more likely to agree with the argument than if it was presented in any other font. Readers were least likely to agree with statements made in fonts like Comic Sans and Helvetica.

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A “mouse” was put at the top of a jar filled with grains…

A “mouse” was put at the top of a jar filled with grains.

He was so happy to find so much food around him that no longer he felt the need to run around searching for food and now he could happily live his life.

After a few days of enjoying the grains, he reached the bottom of the jar.

Now he was trapped and he couldn’t get out of it.

He now has to solely depend upon someone to put grains in the same jar for him to survive.
He also may not get the grain of his choice and he cannot choose either.

Here are a few lessons to learn from this:
1) Short term pleasures can lead to long-term traps (living on benefits/furlough/spoilt by parents perhaps?).

2) If things are coming easy and you are getting comfortable, you are getting trapped into dependency.

3) When you are not using your skills, you will lose more than your skills. You lose your CHOICES and FREEDOM.

4) Freedom does not come easy but can be lost very quickly.

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What 3 Behavioural Changes I Recommend To Improve the World

What would the 3 things I suggest everyone learn that could improve humanity?

1) Learn to take responsibility – too many people blame, and in doing so, lose the opportunity to learn and grow

2) Remember that everyone has valid thoughts, feelings and opinions, and telling them otherwise creates conflict

3) Stop complaining and take action; and for those things that you seriously can’t change, let it go. You spent 7-8 years believing in Santa, you can spend 5 minutes believing in yourself to make a difference.

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Choose Your Hard

Life will never be easy. It will always be hard. But we can choose our hard. Choose wisely.

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Internet is Changing the Game

What will YOUR industry look like in 2030? The Internet is changing the game – we’re enjoying being a part of what real estate will look like in the future. Embrace change, or join the dinosaurs!

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The Art of War #3

The Art of War #3 – Sun Szu

The general that hearkens to my counsel and acts upon it, will conquer: let such a one be retained in command! The general that hearkens not to my counsel nor acts upon it, will suffer defeat: – let such a one be dismissed!

While heeding the profit of my counsel, avail yourself also of any helpful circumstances over and beyond the ordinary rules.

Accordingly as circumstances are favourable, one should modify one’s plan.

All warfare is based on deception.

Hence, when able to attack, we must seem unable; when using our forces, we must seem inactive; when we are near, we must make the enemy believe we are far away; when far away, we must make him believe we are near.

Hold out baits to entice the enemy. Feign disorder, and crush him.

If he is secure at all points, be prepared for him. If he is in superior strength, evade him.

If your opponent is of choleric temper, seek to irritate him. Pretend to be weak, that he may grow arrogant.

If he is taking his ease, give him no rest. If his forces are united, separate them.

Attack him where he is unprepared, appear where you are not expected.

These military devices, leading to victory, must not be divulged beforehand.

Now the general who wins a battle makes many calculations in his temple ere the battle is fought. The general who loses a battle makes but few calculations beforehand. Thus do many calculations lead to victory, and few calculations lead to defeat: how much more no calculation at all! It is by attention to this point that I foresee who is likely to win or lose.

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